What to Know about Relationship Coaching

In the long term marriage rut?

Feeling hurt or betrayed?

Lost the relationship spark, and want it back?

Asking yourself if it's worth the struggle?

 

 

Relationships are work  -- sometimes hard work! No one teaches you how to be a couple. And it’s common for the very things you thought were cute or attractive at the beginning to become uninteresting or annoying over time.

 

Relationships Research Says

 

Research into relationships brings up some startling statistics, such as: 

 

• The long term psychological stress of feeling helpless to change a relationship can lead to serious health problems.

 

• Failing relationships can cause depression and anxiety -- sometimes this is debilitating.

 

• Intimate relationships are extremely important to a person’s sense of well-being.

 

• As we age our sense of social connectedness is more important to our overall health than is diet or exercise.

 

• Less than 5% of divorcing couples seek marital counseling. Dr. John Gottman has statistics that reveal the average couple waits six years before seeking help.

 

Couples counselors, marriage therapists, and relationship coaches agree that more couples can be helped if they seek help earlier, and if you wait too long to get counseling or coaching the odds are against you.

 

When couples who were once so in love start to bicker, go their own ways, develop separate lives, and lose touch with what brought you together in the first place, self-confidence, sense of well-being, inner peace fades.

 

These are replaced with fear, anxiety, and a sense of isolation.

 

What Every Marriage, Couple and

Partnership Needs to Succeed

 

Have you been thinking about couples counseling and relationship coaching?

 

Here is what you get in couples counseling and relationship coaching:

 

• New skills for really listening to each other
   

• Ways to understand what your partner needs and to express what you need
   

• Courage to be vulnerable enough to really say what is on your mind.
   

• Methods to identify your emotions
   

• Techniques for keeping disagreements from becoming violent and hurtful
   

• Negotiating for change
   

• Resolving painful memories

 

Most importantly, you truly will get help if you learn how to change. First you must see your contribution to the problems in order to go from being a victim to feeling empowered.

 

Without relationship coaching or marriage counseling, you might be stuck in having heated arguments, and feeling wounded. Perhaps as a result you are not communicating as openly as you used to.

 

Maybe it’s feeling a little unsafe to be vulnerable with your partner right now. You anticipate that no matter how nicely you say what you need, your partner will be defensive. And that’s really putting a damper on what you want to share with each other, and even how much time you want to spend together.

 

You already know that this is bad for your relationship. You can feel the breakdown and you want to change things before they get worse. Something needs to be done, but you might not be sure what, or who to ask.

 

I urge you to try relationship repair.

 

• Relationship coaching or couples counseling will help you:

 

• Feel fully understood and valued

 

• End the cheating, lying and infidelity (only if your partner is willing)

 

• Have fewer arguments, improve your overall sense of well being

 

• Stop fighting over money

 

• Gain a return of your passion

 

• Regain intimacy and affection

 

• Recognize your partner’s love language

 

Either with your partner, or by yourself, working on your relationship is a smart thing to do. You’ll learn to identify what isn’t working, know exactly why, and gain new skills for making repairs

 

It is preferable for a couple to attend sessions together. However, I have worked with individuals who wanted to preserve their relationship and their partner would not attend. There is a tremendous power in one person changing to change the relationship. If you respond differently to situations, often so will your spouse.

 

 

Give me a call and let’s get started

 

Roberta Gallagher, LCSW, LMFT

305 - 775 - 5101

 

Nothing improves by procrastinating